Make Love Without Sex

LOW KEY THINGS (HE DOES) OTHER THAN SEX, THAT BUILDS INTIMACY…

 

 

bey jay bed laugh

There are many ways for your man to show how he’s feeling for you. Not all guys are vocal about professing their feelings but if you need assurance that your relationship is on the right track, there are other ways that speak just as loudly and strong as the precious words we  love to hear.

 

 

 

1.) A HUG FROM BEHIND

Bey Jay Behind Hug

There’s nothing better than when I’m in the kitchen cooking, or staring from the window, or just talking to a group of people, and he comes from behind and envelopes me in hug. It tickles my neck to have him squeeze the side of my face into the side of his face. It makes my day!

 

 

 

2.) THE INTERLOCK

interlock in bed

There’s hand holding, and then there’s interlocking. Interlocking is hand-holding to the 10th power and infinity. It doesn’t get more intimate than this. Of course I love the occasional interlock while we’re riding in the car or when we’re cuddled up in the cold movie theater, but nothing is more loving or says I love you more than an interlock during or after the height of passion. When he reaches for my hand and squeezes… I feel so reassured and loved. (Plus, it lets me know that the mission is accomplished! – wink)

 

 

 

3.) LAUGHING IN BED

BLACK-COUPLES share joke

When we share a laugh in bed (especially while I’m snuggled up under him)  It doesn’t matter how silly the joke or non-joke is that we’re tickled about, all that matters is that our relationship is in a place where we can still joke and be friendly towards each other. The best thing you can do, is to be friends in bed. Your relationship is just as publicly strong as it is privately strong.

 

 

 

4.) PLAYFUL AFFECTION

black couple playful biting

Whether it’s a low-key smack on the ass (while no one is around), tickling me in bed, or simply nudging my shoulder with his, intimacy grows stronger with the fact that he still wants to have fun with me and finds playful ways to make me smile.

 

 

 

5.) K-I-S-S-I-N-G

bey jay kiss

You would be surprised how many couples have stopped kissing. Not the “hello, have a good day kiss” but the “damn girl, I want you badly, kiss!” the kiss is still one of the highest forms of passion between couples. There are many ways to kiss and they all have a different tone or feeling. One of my personal faves is when he kisses me while we’re still talking. I fight hard to continue the conversation but I always lose.🙂

 

 

 

6.)  HIS SUBTLE TOUCH OF PROTECTION

black couple hand on back

When he puts his around around the small of my back to pull me away from the curb, I feel so safe. Chivalrous gestures like these might seem like a common courtesy between a man and his dame but times-are-a-changin’. Not all men make the gesture to show that they’ll shield you with their body in the face of doom and not all women acknowledge those little things that act as sure fire signs of his feelings towards you. Even if I’m on the right side of the sidewalk, I still get tingles when his hand touches my back.

 

 

 

7.) HE REPLIES TO MY TEXTS

bey reading text

Nothing kills intimacy fast than a voice-mail or a long period without text reply. I understand that ‘ish happens’ and that you can’t always take the time to answer or respond but when it happens more often than not… things can go sideways very fast. But for those who get a response in a timely manner- brace yourself… I think he likes you.

WHAT ARE SOME OF THE LITTLE THINGS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP THAT HELP TO BUILD INTIMACY?